Hi everyone, I’ve decided that I’ll drop the day count as I think it might be a reminder that I’m taking too long to simplify my shit! So far since starting this journey I feel I have done plenty of reading and self-reflection but I still feel like I’m not taking enough action. I’ve de-cluttered a couple of drawers…not exactly the life changing progress I was hoping for at the start.
However fear not my friends I have started the process so at least that is some progress. I’ve also started physio and joined a gym. I haven’t actually been to the gym yet as it was only yesterday but still positive moves forward. I’ve been trying to put a bit more emphasis on self-care and trying to just relax more.
I thought I’d share some findings and resources from my research that might help you to improve your self care.
What is self-care?
Self-care is defined by Psychcentral.com as:
Self-care is any activity that we do deliberately in order to take care of our mental, emotional, and physical health.
I like to think of it as anything that looks after our body or mind, and if I’m honest I do not think I’ve been doing much self-care for a long time! That is why from now on I’m going to really try to carve time out of my week so stop and take care of me.
Why is self-care so important?
Self-care is hugely important to everyone. When we feel overwhelmed or stress or that we are not coping, if we look at our behaviour it is probably is that we are not looking one aspect of all aspects of ourselves such as physical, mental and emotional care.
If you look after yourself you keep yourself healthy and fit it makes you feel good. If you do not exercise you feel sluggish, lazy and unmotivated. Ideally we should all be exercising 3 times a week…I had not entered a gym until yesterday for nearly 4 years since I first found out I was pregnant! However physical exercise is so important to our overall happiness.
Self-care also gives you the opportunity to take some time out whether this is from working or your kids or your relationship. Time away and time apart is really important to give yourself time to refresh, recharge and appreciating all the wonderful things and/or people in your life.
If we do not look after ourselves by practising self-care it is easy to become depressed or feeling like you are struggling or generally not being happy. You must address this, take some time to make yourself happy. Your family will thank you for it.
My 20 quick ideas for some self-care:
- Treat yourself to a magazine, make a cuppa or pour yourself some wine and just enjoy… bliss!
- Run a hot bath, get a book or kindle and soak…
- Order your favourite takeaway
- Watch your all time favourite romantic comedy – personal suggestions would be Love Actually, Notting Hill, Bridget Jones, Three Men and a Baby and Legally Blonde.
- Indulge with a good TV show, book or podcast (whichever your preference) and some lovely dark chocolate
- Shopping trip
- Go for a Massage
- A cuddle from kids, spouse, family or friends
- Put your favourite tunes on and dance round your living room
- Do something creative – write in your journal, colour, drawer, paint, make some candles…
- Go for a walk
- Meet friends for a wine or coffee
- Call a member of your family for a catch-up
- Volunteer – you will feel great about yourself and you’ll help your community
- Go to the gym or a yoga class
- Meditate – if you are a beginner try the app Simple Minds
- Go to a stand up comedy show – laughter is a great source of therapy
- This isn’t one for me (as I cannot bake) but I have heard a lot of people find baking therapeutic
- Have a make over – maybe treat yourself to a new hair style or new makeup or new clothes which are different from your usual style
- Plan a holiday 🙂
Want to know more about the importance of self-care?
I have found a few good resources online that offer things like checklist to make sure you are doing enough self-care or for hints and ideas on how you can do more self-care, here is a list:
So hope that gives you plenty of reading to do. I’m off now to relax with my ‘Breathe’ magazine with a glass of red and then sleep… sigh.
A very important note – I am not a health care professional so please if you feel down or depressed at all and need help or want to talk to someone, please call a professional – for Australia call Lifeline 13 11 14. In other countries please, please, please go and see your GP or google some local support organisations who will be able to help. There are always people to listen and support you.
I’ll be reading more myself and then coming up with a list of self-care lists that I am discovering and finding useful which might help you too.
Please comment below with your self-care ideas – favourite feel good movies and music!
Take care, until next time.