So it has been months readers… i’m sorry! Life has just taken over. The family house was sold and I moved into a gorgeous rental, I had family to stay, and overall I’ve been SOOOOOOOOOO busy!!! I’ve had up days, i’ve had brilliant days, i’ve had very low days and i’ve had mediocre days. I have dabbled in dating…4 unsuccessful dates later i’ve decided it is just not my time yet.
I have two new projects… finance and fitness – the 2F’s as I’m going to call them. So less ‘men’ and now all about ‘fitness’ and ‘finance’, i am excited.
For all those other late 30s daters out there – eeek it can be soul destroying, confidence shattering experience but I will not ultimately give up, I think a little break is needed. Lessons learnt – do NOT spend weeks texting multiple times a day only for you to invest so much time, energy and emotions and then meet them and … nothing! Weeks of time, daydreaming about this ideal future life only to meet them and never to hear from them again.
It felt soul destroying – I went through the stages of is it me, am I ugly, overweight, unfunny, obnoxious, what is it… only to come to the realisation that they were not right for me either, and possibly I was giving off an air of desperation was probably an alarm bell ringing! I thought I was good; I thought I was ready, but ultimately I wasn’t. That does not mean i’m giving up on love, it just means I’m doing some more soul searching at my end, and deciding if tinder really is the devil 😉 One piece of news which is very positive is reader… i’ve been a non-smoker for over 6 weeks now – two sessions of hypnotherapy did it.
So instead of dating I’ve started running!! I’m on run 2 of my couch to 10k training plan and even though it is VERY early days, I’m feeling energised and motivated. The running inspiration started when I discovered this audio-book – ‘Running Like a Girl’ by Alexandra Heminsley. (You can buy the paperback book here or audio-book here.) This book just seemed to find me at exactly the time I needed it! After the unsuccessful attempts at dating I realised I was not really feeling 100% happy with my physical appearance ie. my weight and overall fitness. I am still carrying 14kg more than what I weighed before I was pregnant. However even though the weight loss sounds appealing, what really made me interested was how Alexandra described the mental strength she gained. For her the running was just as much a mental journey as a physical one. I need to build up my confidence and resilience and running sounds like it could be the way forward….
Listening to this book I laughed out loud but also cried numerous times. The emotions Alexandra goes through when running marathons seems so raw. You feel like you are there experiencing the crowd and cheers – her highs and lows. I would highly recommend this book. It really has inspired me to sign up for my first 12km run… and from there who knows!!! Key learning’s from Alexandra is that there is not a lot you need to run, but she does recommend a decent sports bra and some good trainers. So far i’m finding the below products great.
To get started running I am using and wearing these:
10k Runner app (available for both Android and iphone) – great app to guide you from couch to 10k.
Fitbit Charge 2 – monitoring my steps and heart rate. Buy here.
First few runs of couch to 10km are:
Week 1, Day 1 – 5 min warm up, 1 Min run + 1.5 walk x 6 times, 5 min cool down
Week 1, Day 2 – 5 min warm up, 1 Min run + 1.5 walk x 8 times, 5 min cool down
Week 1, Day 3 – 5 min warm up, 1 Min run + 1.5 walk x 8 times, 5 min cool down
So that is the fitness, but what about the finances. How am I going to sort out my finances? Well to get started I’ve recently finished two books: The Barefoot Investor by Scott Pape and Unfuck your finances by Melissa Browne. The big takeaways from these are dividing your bank accounts up and having seperate accounts for different purposes – emergency fund, everyday account, long term saving and short term savings. Also to pay off any bad debt ASAP. My current focus is to pay off my two credit cards, next student loan and then save, save, save! I am also investigating other ways to make money in my spare time. I am also budgeting or should I say cutting back on things I over indulge in, like lunches and coffees. I’m trying to cook more and freeze the meals to take to work. These are small steps but will ultimately make quite a big different – if I buy lunch every day for $10 that is $200 a month/$50 a week. Then add in the coffees and $13 parking and its all mounting up. I have found somewhere to park free which is maybe an extra 5 mins walk each morning and evening but I see this as an extra bonus anyway – more steps.
So my focus this week is minimal spending and more running. Are you going to join me?
Please comment below with any good running or budgeting tips…maybe even dating tips for the future.
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