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From Tinder to trainers…

May 26, 2018
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So it has been months readers… i’m sorry!  Life has just taken over.  The family house was sold and I moved into a gorgeous rental, I had family to stay, and overall I’ve been SOOOOOOOOOO busy!!!  I’ve had up days, i’ve had brilliant days, i’ve had very low days and i’ve had mediocre days.  I have dabbled in dating…4 unsuccessful dates later i’ve decided it is just not my time yet.

I have two new projects… finance and fitness – the 2F’s as I’m going to call them.  So less ‘men’ and now all about ‘fitness’ and ‘finance’, i am excited.

Tinder…

For all those other late 30s daters out there – eeek it can be soul destroying, confidence shattering experience but I will not ultimately give up, I think a little break is needed.  Lessons learnt – do NOT spend weeks texting multiple times a day only for you to invest so much time, energy and emotions and then meet them and … nothing!  Weeks of time, daydreaming about this ideal future life only to meet them and never to hear from them again.

It felt soul destroying – I went through the stages of is it me, am I ugly, overweight, unfunny, obnoxious, what is it… only to come to the realisation that they were not right for me either, and possibly I was giving off an air of desperation was probably an alarm bell ringing!  I thought I was good; I thought I was ready, but ultimately I wasn’t.  That does not mean i’m giving up on love, it just means I’m doing some more soul searching at my end, and deciding if tinder really is the devil 😉  One piece of news which is very positive is reader… i’ve been a non-smoker for over 6 weeks now – two sessions of hypnotherapy did it.

Trainers…

So instead of dating I’ve started running!!  I’m on run 2 of my couch to 10k training plan and even though it is VERY early days, I’m feeling energised and motivated.  The running inspiration started when I discovered this audio-book – ‘Running Like a Girl’ by Alexandra Heminsley.  (You can buy the paperback book here or audio-book here.)  This book just seemed to find me at exactly the time I needed it!  After the unsuccessful attempts at dating I realised I was not really feeling 100% happy with my physical appearance ie. my weight and overall fitness.  I am still carrying 14kg more than what I weighed before I was pregnant.  However even though the weight loss sounds appealing, what really made me interested was how Alexandra described the mental strength she gained.  For her the running was just as much a mental journey as a physical one.  I need to build up my confidence and resilience and running sounds like it could be the way forward….

Listening to this book I laughed out loud but also cried numerous times.  The emotions Alexandra goes through when running marathons seems so raw.  You feel like you are there experiencing the crowd and cheers – her highs and lows.  I would highly recommend this book.  It really has inspired me to sign up for my first 12km run… and from there who knows!!!  Key learning’s from Alexandra is that there is not a lot you need to run, but she does recommend a decent sports bra and some good trainers.  So far i’m finding the below products great.

To get started running I am using and wearing these:

10k Runner app (available for both Android and iphone) – great app to guide you from couch to 10k.

New trainers ASICS GT-2000 6 – I went out and bought these last week.  I am REALLY enjoying wearing them so far. Buy here.

Fitbit Charge 2 – monitoring my steps and heart rate. Buy here.

First few runs of couch to 10km are:

Week 1, Day 1 – 5 min warm up, 1 Min run + 1.5 walk x 6 times, 5 min cool down

Week 1, Day 2 – 5 min warm up, 1 Min run + 1.5 walk x 8 times, 5 min cool down

Week 1, Day 3 – 5 min warm up, 1 Min run + 1.5 walk x 8 times, 5 min cool down

Finance…

So that is the fitness, but what about the finances.  How am I going to sort out my finances?  Well to get started I’ve recently finished two books:  The Barefoot Investor by Scott Pape and Unfuck your finances by Melissa Browne.   The big takeaways from these are dividing your bank accounts up and having seperate accounts for different purposes – emergency fund, everyday account, long term saving and short term savings.  Also to pay off any bad debt ASAP.  My current focus is to pay off my two credit cards, next student loan and then save, save, save!  I am also investigating other ways to make money in my spare time.  I am also budgeting or should I say cutting back on things I over indulge in, like lunches and coffees.  I’m trying to cook more and freeze the meals to take to work.  These are small steps but will ultimately make quite a big different – if I buy lunch every day for $10 that is $200 a month/$50 a week.  Then add in the coffees and $13 parking and its all mounting up.  I have found somewhere to park free which is maybe an extra 5 mins walk each morning and evening but I see this as an extra bonus anyway – more steps.

So my focus this week is minimal spending and more running.  Are you going to join me?

Please comment below with any good running or budgeting tips…maybe even dating tips for the future.

 

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  • Reply
    Ginger Sorensen
    May 28, 2018 at 12:30 am

    About 4 years ago I ran my first half marathon (also my last one). I would love to try one again. I haven’t officially ran since. I got pregnant soon after. When I was training I used the Run / Walk method and it was super helpful for me to build up. Sending you some good vibes in all that you are working for!

    • Reply
      Natalie
      May 28, 2018 at 11:43 am

      Thanks Ginger…my first goal is 5km, then 12km but I have got a little thought that if all goes well I could try a half marathon (I’ve seen one that it in Norway and you have chance to see the Northern Lights which is on my bucket list) – well done for completing one – its a great achievement.

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    Annette
    May 28, 2018 at 9:17 am

    Hi Natalie,
    It sounds like it’s been a hectic few months so it’s great that you’re back in a place to be able to blog again! I love your two ‘F’s and the number one relationship to look after is the one you have with yourself – any others will find you when the time is right. I think it’s great you’ve found an exercise you enjoy – something I’m still on the lookout for 😛

    I have done a lot of work on getting my finances in order over the past few years and would recommend a couple of blogs in this area that may interest you. https://www.mrmoneymustache.com/ is hardcore but a great place to start if you’re up for challenging your financial mindset, as is https://theescapeartist.me/ (if you don’t mind a British perspective). You don’t have to be chasing financial independence to get a lot from these blogs, they just talk about money in a way most people don’t and it can be eye-opening.

    You’re clearly doing great so keep on going and let the good times get better. You got this. 🙂
    Annette

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      Natalie
      May 28, 2018 at 11:39 am

      Thanks so much for your words of support Annette. I will check out those other blogs, they sound interesting and you can never have too much financial knowledge 😉 It is still early days with the running but enjoying it so far. I know what you mean as I’ve tried a lot of different types of exercise but it is hard to find one you really love. Thanks again for reading my post.

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    Loura
    May 30, 2018 at 4:19 am

    Whoosh, what a personal story! It’s inspiring to hear how you don’t let soul destroying tinder boys pop your bubble. Be proud of yourself setting goals and going for it, a motivation many women out there are seeking. You slay them F’s of yours!

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    Dana
    May 30, 2018 at 2:53 pm

    I was knee deep in the dating scene and got into a car wreck and met my husband. Crazy how things work out sometimes. So awesome that you’re focusing on yourself.

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    Doma
    June 5, 2018 at 4:00 am

    I like how to focus your attention on yourself and your future. Keep it up. I want to participate in a marathon one day. I am not a runner expect when I am too stressed or need to clear my head otherwise I settle down with brisk walking. Good Luck for your future endeavour.

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    Christina
    August 6, 2018 at 7:00 pm

    First of all, BRAVO on stopping smoking! That is TOUGH. Good for you. (my mom is a hypnotherapist and I’ve seen how it can work wonders on so many things!). And second, sounds like you are on an amazing track and most importantly, taking care of YOU. Keep it up. Reading this inspired me for sure.

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